You don't know me, but I blog stalk you. And I just wanted to say that it is ok to not be funny. It is ok to spend a season of time freaking out. It is ok to do some yoga to get the freaking out of you system. It is ok to step back and evaluate which things in your world are giving you life and which things are sapping it. And it is ok to make changes accordingly. Meanwhile, here is a cyber-hug. Just know that it is you and every other woman out there. You may not be funny, but you are relate-able. The funniness comes back with the life. It is all about balance...you and I apparently don't have a low center of gravity. Breathe deep. And know that there is another person stressed at work, debating what to do about men, and who is going ice-skating tonight because that seems like a good solution.
Ditto. "another person who ceased to be funny" said it perfectly. It is OK. Don't stress! You're human. You cannot be 100% anything all the time. And, I don't think anyone would expect you to. 100% anything all the time is boring anyway. Real is sexy. Smile. You are loved! Even by people you have never met....Another cyber-stranger
another person & anonymous: OMG! You guys are making me tear up! I think those were two of the sweetest things any two strangers/blog stalkers have ever written to me. Thank you very much.. I'm sorta all schmoopy now, as Shine would say, because of both of you. It's really made my whole day and it's only 7:45! Thanks! I'm all blushy over here.. Oh! and YAY! for ice skating! You go! xoxo hugs to you both!
ditto + ditto to the posts above. There's nothing wrong with taking some severe downtime for yourself. Those that are passionate about their relationships, whether platonic or romatic, are ones that may need the downtime even more. Its just plain exhausting doing or being everything to everyone; I know, I've been there. And its hard to take a step back in the midst of that process, because the euphoria from bringing joy to others is so addictive that it masks the energy toll it's taking from you.Anyway, I have to go through the same mental and emotional cleansing every few seasons... whether its from friends, family, or both. I think that this route is sometimes better than the alternative, which is to become snippy to those that you love. Heck, I think whatever extreme solitude that one has to go through may actually aid in accelerating the cleansing process. I just wish that I could find a way to somehow apply the same to some work situations; I guess that's something that I'll have to try to learn in 2008.Until then, enjoy doing things for yourself... find some good stuff on sale, drink some good vino, take a short trip sunny and warm (...and I need a trip really bad).cheers, sparkles, bubbles, and smiliesroy
Babes, it sounds like your life is ticking along quite nicely, so its not a traditional thing, if you like it, and it feels good, then just go with it......as for not writing, readign or commenting, its called life babes and it gets in the way all the time......and as one of your old commenters I would much rather know you were out having fun rather than sitting in thinking up funny stuff to entertain us. :-)Don't write fun, go and have fun.
Yup. Find your even keel, darlin, even if even is off-kilter. Sometimes, nothing is everything.Love you!
Sweetie? Can I say something obvious? Nothing about your life is traditional. Nothing about you is traditional. That's what we love about you. Now stop comparing yourself to other people and go with it, K? Also, I think you're damn funny, even when you're not trying to be funny or you think you're not funny. And I do love those stacks of email messages I get when you read six of my last blog posts at the same time. Love the catching up!As for the "thinness" - puhleeze! You are perfect the way you are. And, BTW, it's Girl Scout Cookie time anyway, so give it up and order some, K?Love.
If you wrote what was in your head, you could be funny all the time but then that would be boring and we would eventually stop reading. You write from the heart, you are honest about what you feel and that is why we continue to read. You possess the gift of a creative soul and it attracts kindred spirits, people that can feel real, raw emotion leaping from your words. Funny? Funny isn't the glue that makes things stick, it's just a different font. Don’t worry about getting there, my dear. Our path through life is never a straight line and isn’t the journey the real goal not the destination?
roy: Thanks for the support! I don't think I'm trying to be everything to everyone.. just trying to find time for this creative outlet that I actually love. But yes, Life does get in the way and all its crap and all the good stuff that comes w/ it too. I think you're on to something when you suggest there's got to be something done to calm down work stress.. communal meditation during lunches maybe? I already have an hour of quiet time 4 times a week - seriously, we all do, but it's to get work done.. so maybe I could revamp that, but then they'd wonder what I was using my lunches for.. ;) Good luck on that vacation.. I'm trying to do that too before the one I take to Burning Man. xoxoindi: Hee.. I love it when you call me babes. Cracks my shit up. But you are right. I have to do stuff in order to have stuff to write about.. thanks for being so encouraging. Heart you!treens: Oh.. nothing is everything once in a while.. but bitching about my stuff seems trivial to what you and Kar are dealing with. Hugs to you sweet girl! xoxokari: You really think so? Cuz seriously, I feel soooo normal and honestly sorta ache to be a little more different. And I know some non-traditional people you know. I'm way more boring than they are.. BUT you KNOW I'm buying Girl Scout stuff.. like I would forget? Ok, I might forget, but I'd be kicking myself.. Will call you but put me down for like.. 3-4 boxes.. I think you can guess which kinds. ;) xoxokevin: 'Funny isn't the glue that makes things stick, it's just a different font.' I like that.. a lot. Thank you for the kind words.. My goal is to be relatable.. and get out the things I need to get out.. then everyone is happy. Thanks for reading and your compliments. :)
See, yeah, you're normal. In a good way.
Hey there, i have been following your blog anonymously for the past couple of years (off and on) and have heard you complain many times about your job. You acually write really well and i wanted to suggest that you become a writer for a living. After all, you love love love your Apple right? Maybe write a book while you still have a salary and then quit when you sell your first million. Or freelance for magazines. All you have to do is send them a sample of writing from your blog and your set!! Just a suggestion. No one should hate their job. And...a career like that might give you some of the confidence/fulfillment/disposable income/energy/contacts youve been looking for.Hope you appreciate my thoughts!
Yah! Seattle Times Intelligencer or wtf it is, watch out. Like Sex in the City Seattle Style.. i'm crackin myself up. Is it working on you yet? xxoo
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You don't know me, but I blog stalk you. And I just wanted to say that it is ok to not be funny. It is ok to spend a season of time freaking out. It is ok to do some yoga to get the freaking out of you system. It is ok to step back and evaluate which things in your world are giving you life and which things are sapping it. And it is ok to make changes accordingly. Meanwhile, here is a cyber-hug. Just know that it is you and every other woman out there. You may not be funny, but you are relate-able. The funniness comes back with the life. It is all about balance...you and I apparently don't have a low center of gravity. Breathe deep. And know that there is another person stressed at work, debating what to do about men, and who is going ice-skating tonight because that seems like a good solution.
Ditto. "another person who ceased to be funny" said it perfectly. It is OK. Don't stress! You're human. You cannot be 100% anything all the time. And, I don't think anyone would expect you to. 100% anything all the time is boring anyway. Real is sexy. Smile. You are loved! Even by people you have never met.
...Another cyber-stranger
another person & anonymous: OMG! You guys are making me tear up! I think those were two of the sweetest things any two strangers/blog stalkers have ever written to me. Thank you very much.. I'm sorta all schmoopy now, as Shine would say, because of both of you. It's really made my whole day and it's only 7:45! Thanks! I'm all blushy over here.. Oh! and YAY! for ice skating! You go! xoxo hugs to you both!
ditto + ditto to the posts above. There's nothing wrong with taking some severe downtime for yourself. Those that are passionate about their relationships, whether platonic or romatic, are ones that may need the downtime even more. Its just plain exhausting doing or being everything to everyone; I know, I've been there. And its hard to take a step back in the midst of that process, because the euphoria from bringing joy to others is so addictive that it masks the energy toll it's taking from you.
Anyway, I have to go through the same mental and emotional cleansing every few seasons... whether its from friends, family, or both. I think that this route is sometimes better than the alternative, which is to become snippy to those that you love. Heck, I think whatever extreme solitude that one has to go through may actually aid in accelerating the cleansing process. I just wish that I could find a way to somehow apply the same to some work situations; I guess that's something that I'll have to try to learn in 2008.
Until then, enjoy doing things for yourself... find some good stuff on sale, drink some good vino, take a short trip sunny and warm (...and I need a trip really bad).
cheers, sparkles, bubbles, and smilies
roy
Babes, it sounds like your life is ticking along quite nicely, so its not a traditional thing, if you like it, and it feels good, then just go with it...
...as for not writing, readign or commenting, its called life babes and it gets in the way all the time...
...and as one of your old commenters I would much rather know you were out having fun rather than sitting in thinking up funny stuff to entertain us. :-)
Don't write fun, go and have fun.
Yup. Find your even keel, darlin, even if even is off-kilter. Sometimes, nothing is everything.
Love you!
Sweetie? Can I say something obvious? Nothing about your life is traditional. Nothing about you is traditional. That's what we love about you. Now stop comparing yourself to other people and go with it, K?
Also, I think you're damn funny, even when you're not trying to be funny or you think you're not funny. And I do love those stacks of email messages I get when you read six of my last blog posts at the same time. Love the catching up!
As for the "thinness" - puhleeze! You are perfect the way you are. And, BTW, it's Girl Scout Cookie time anyway, so give it up and order some, K?
Love.
If you wrote what was in your head, you could be funny all the time but then that would be boring and we would eventually stop reading. You write from the heart, you are honest about what you feel and that is why we continue to read. You possess the gift of a creative soul and it attracts kindred spirits, people that can feel real, raw emotion leaping from your words. Funny? Funny isn't the glue that makes things stick, it's just a different font.
Don’t worry about getting there, my dear. Our path through life is never a straight line and isn’t the journey the real goal not the destination?
roy: Thanks for the support! I don't think I'm trying to be everything to everyone.. just trying to find time for this creative outlet that I actually love. But yes, Life does get in the way and all its crap and all the good stuff that comes w/ it too. I think you're on to something when you suggest there's got to be something done to calm down work stress.. communal meditation during lunches maybe? I already have an hour of quiet time 4 times a week - seriously, we all do, but it's to get work done.. so maybe I could revamp that, but then they'd wonder what I was using my lunches for.. ;) Good luck on that vacation.. I'm trying to do that too before the one I take to Burning Man. xoxo
indi: Hee.. I love it when you call me babes. Cracks my shit up. But you are right. I have to do stuff in order to have stuff to write about.. thanks for being so encouraging. Heart you!
treens: Oh.. nothing is everything once in a while.. but bitching about my stuff seems trivial to what you and Kar are dealing with. Hugs to you sweet girl! xoxo
kari: You really think so? Cuz seriously, I feel soooo normal and honestly sorta ache to be a little more different. And I know some non-traditional people you know. I'm way more boring than they are.. BUT you KNOW I'm buying Girl Scout stuff.. like I would forget? Ok, I might forget, but I'd be kicking myself.. Will call you but put me down for like.. 3-4 boxes.. I think you can guess which kinds. ;) xoxo
kevin: 'Funny isn't the glue that makes things stick, it's just a different font.' I like that.. a lot. Thank you for the kind words.. My goal is to be relatable.. and get out the things I need to get out.. then everyone is happy. Thanks for reading and your compliments. :)
See, yeah, you're normal. In a good way.
Hey there, i have been following your blog anonymously for the past couple of years (off and on) and have heard you complain many times about your job. You acually write really well and i wanted to suggest that you become a writer for a living. After all, you love love love your Apple right? Maybe write a book while you still have a salary and then quit when you sell your first million. Or freelance for magazines. All you have to do is send them a sample of writing from your blog and your set!!
Just a suggestion. No one should hate their job. And...a career like that might give you some of the confidence/fulfillment/disposable income/energy/contacts youve been looking for.
Hope you appreciate my thoughts!
Yah! Seattle Times Intelligencer or wtf it is, watch out. Like Sex in the City Seattle Style.. i'm crackin myself up. Is it working on you yet? xxoo
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